Missing You.

Why does a farewell always come with a grand celebration? Why are those bits of extreme happiness expressed, when the worst is only about to arrive? Why do people even have to be extra sweet while they are about to leave? I don’t know if it’s just a kind gesture, or a formality or the hiding of sorrows, but to me it feels like a plain slap on the face. Like, ‘Hey! Come back to reality! I’m leaving, you know?’ Great.

Of course, nobody knows when they are about to leave. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not talking about the ‘I’m-going-to-die’ kind of ‘leave’. Only the ‘moving on’ stuff. Honestly, when I look back to it, it hurts ifΒ there was a sugary conversation involved in their last words. Like, they knew it all along that this day was about to arrive soon. I start to regret why I even befriended them in the first place! But regrets are fatal. So I turn it into resent. Yes, I hate you for not staying put. Yeah, I hold a grudge against you, so what? Does that make me a bad person now? Cool. That’s really what I had always wished to be! *sigh*

– Suri

43 thoughts on “Missing You.

  1. In my experience, leaving does not involve a grand celebration. When we left the UK to live in Canada, there was no party…. just hugs and tears and fond wishes for a happy future. If we know people are going away for some time, we will invariably invite them to a farewell dinner but it will never be a party per se simply because we will miss them. The party is when they return! Perhaps your experience is a cultural thing????

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    1. No! I wasn’t talking about the unavoidable farewell like moving on to a new location. I meant individual farewells.like with friends. & not like a literal farewell party, only the feeling during the last meet. Then all of a sudden they vanish! No contact!
      But ah, I guess I’m just over-thinking. Everyone has their own life & priorities.

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      1. Your last sentence really says it all…. and that is how it should be.
        The people I respect the most are those that not only have their own life and priorities, but also allocate some of their time to other people’s lives and priorities.
        On a similar note – My personal philosophy is not to expect anything from anybody. I am never disappointed, but am often happily surprised! It’s all perspective.

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  2. I always felt with those kinds of “leave-takings” that the other person seems to feel a bit superior. You know, as if they have more grand things going on in their life now. And the person left behind, me, is really not that imp0rtant anymore. So you hear crap like, “stay sweet” or “hey, it was all good man.” Yeah, right. So, if it was so good then why are you pulling out. Hmmm.

    I think your feelings are normal or as another said, “honest.” Go with the flow. And treat yourself to something nice, why not. Maybe meet another friend out there.

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  3. Holding grudge will effect our inner peace. Focus on things we are in control of, after sometimes we will realise that moving on was the best thing ever happened! rock on. life is beautiful. wishes πŸ™‚

    Josh

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  4. Yes it sucks always !
    And it has kind of become some kind of trend to break up, move on, being practical.

    Well let’s just say, we are moving apart to be happy, are we then Truly happy ? πŸ˜‰

    Cool Man ( Hope you are not feminist πŸ˜€ ) like your writings.

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  5. There’s no partying when you’re leaving or being left by someone you care about or cares about. Who celebrates pain?

    When the door of happiness closes, another opens. But often times we look so long at the closed door that we don’t see the one which has been opened for us. – Alexander Graham Bell

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    1. Ah yes. You’re right. Perhaps I was only looking at the closed door. And in the meanwhile I lost the one that was opened for me.

      Well well.. There’s always a next time, isn’t it..? πŸ™‚

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      1. Suri, just remember: There never is only one open door. God opens doors all the time. We only have to be aware, receptive. It’s ok to miss an opportunity. There will be many others. The “trick” is to be always expecting that something good is on its way to you. Why? Because you deserve it.

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  6. Probably, those extra bits of emotions are required to make sure that the relationship is long lasting, and to further prove that your presence was vital in their life. May be or may be not, it differs from person to person.
    Lastly, I loved the topic you brought to the table.

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